Should I Warn My Abuser’s New Partner?
When we are free from our abusive partner and they start dating someone new, should we warn the new partner? Great question. My experience I met my ex's new girlfriend at my daughter's engagement party. Though my ex refused to speak to me, his new girlfriend was kind,...
Women in Church Leadership
For many churchgoers, women in church leadership is a hot button. There are two major schools of thought about this, complementarianism and egalitarianism. Complementarianism Complementarians believe that men and women are equal in value and dignity, but different in...
Do Christian Abuse Victims Have Rights?
Have you ever heard someone say, “Christians should surrender their rights?” Does the Bible really teach that? How can this idea be used to keep a domestic violence victim in bondage? The following was shared by Leslie Vernick as a guest blog by Rebecca Davis: One of...
Lundy Bancroft Discusses Kayden’s Law
Lundy Bancroft discusses Kayden’s law and how we can reform the family court system to make custody rulings safe for children with abusive parents.
Playing your ex-abuser’s game to win in court
When we finally get the courage to leave our abusive partners, we hope that our abuse is over. Sadly, that is rarely the case. Yes, we no longer have them in our homes, and that is wonderful. But, if we own property with them, or have children with them, we find that...
One Church Standing Beside DV Survivors
Many of us turned to our churches for help when we were with our abusive partners. Sadly, more often than not, we were told to be more submissive and respectful. Our abusers were often not held accountable. Because of this, many abuse survivors turn away from the...
When Abusers Say They Want To Change
Someone who chooses to abuse will need to make many difficult changes in order to have a healthier relationship. Major life changes take time and effort.
What is a Flying Monkey?
The origin of flying monkeys is found in The Wizard of Oz. These scary creatures did the Wicked Witch's bidding. In recent years, the term flying monkeys has come to identify people that do the bidding of abusers. This might be someone who tells the abuser's partner...
When Marital Counseling is a Bad Idea
When any type of abuse is occurring in a relationship, joint counseling is a bad idea. Not only does it not work, it actually puts the victim in greater danger.
When Divorce Saves Lives
Christian abuse victims are often told they have no biblical right to divorce. These pastors disagree.
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