I have recently finished a course on the Old Testament - so interesting! One of the things we studied closely was the 10 Commandments. I have looked at the 10 Commandments many, many times. But, this time, really studying them gave me a new insight on domestic abuse....
Remember those bullies from school? They seemed oh so powerful and strong . . . no one had the guts to stand up to them. Abusers are bullies in disguise. In the beginning they look like lambs when they are really wolves, or dolphins when they are really sharks. Those...
Many domestic violence survivors believe all abusers are socio- or psychopaths. I've asked experts in the field of domestic violence if they agree. These experts say we shouldn't label abusers because if an abuser should be labeled a "sociopath," he would then...
Abusers are liars. On some level we all know this. Yet, at times, they are able to trick us into forgetting this fact. I will give you few examples. Example A - You are divorced from your abuser. He* has week on/week off custody of your two-year old son. Your son...
Does an abuser realize he* is being abusive? Does he know what he is doing? Author Lundy Bancroft says “Yes”. The following is taken from my book A Journey Through Emotional Abuse: from Bondage to Freedom. Why would a husband, especially one who claims to be a...
Author Lundy Bancroft has written a great book called Why Does He DO That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. I reference it on my Get Help page, and I recommend that everyone interested in domestic violence read it. In addition, Mr. Bancroft did a...
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