Resources for Fighting Custody Bills
Want to fight against unfair custody bills in legislatures? This blog lists resources for where to begin the fight.
How to Defeat 50/50 Custody Proposed Bills in Your State
As a mental health therapist that counsels abuse survivors, I see the horrible damage every day from the abuser using the family court system to continue to harm their abused partner and their children. Proposed state laws that assume all divorces should end in 50/50 custody for the children are apt to make this situation even worse. My hope is that survivors will work together to lobby their state legislatures and squash these potential and harmful bills.
How Can I Know If I Am the Abusive One?
Hello! Today I'd like to tackle a question I often hear from my clients. They wonder who is the abusive one? Them or their partner? Because abusers are so adept at shifting the blame for their actions to their partner, survivors often wonder if THEY are the abusive...
Finding Narcissists in All Walks of Life
Narcissistic people can be found in all walks of life. Their toxicity makes us want to defend ourselves. This keeps us attached to them. How can we get free?
Debby Gives Advice on Dating
In my last blog, I shared the story of survivor and thriver Debby Seguin. Today, I will share some of Debby's insights into dating after abuse. I thought they were profound. Let me start by saying I am not a huge fan of online dating. I hear too many negative stories...
Survivor Story – Debby Seguin
I have a treat for you today. Meet Debby Seguin. Debby is a survivor of emotional abuse, and a true THRIVER. Here is her story. The Beginning I met my ex at a New Years Eve bowling party with our church singles group in San Antonio on Dec 31, 1985. We dated and...
Should I Warn My Abuser’s New Partner?
When we are free from our abusive partner and they start dating someone new, should we warn the new partner? Great question. My experience I met my ex's new girlfriend at my daughter's engagement party. Though my ex refused to speak to me, his new girlfriend was kind,...
Women in Church Leadership
For many churchgoers, women in church leadership is a hot button. There are two major schools of thought about this, complementarianism and egalitarianism. Complementarianism Complementarians believe that men and women are equal in value and dignity, but different in...
When Others Just Don’t Get It
Those of us who have separated from an abuser often have to deal with questions from people who just don't get it. They are sometimes what we call "flying monkeys" - people who do the bidding of the abuser. But there may be others who are just uneducated about abuse...
Do Christian Abuse Victims Have Rights?
Have you ever heard someone say, “Christians should surrender their rights?” Does the Bible really teach that? How can this idea be used to keep a domestic violence victim in bondage? The following was shared by Leslie Vernick as a guest blog by Rebecca Davis: One of...
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