Resources for Fighting Custody Bills
Want to fight against unfair custody bills in legislatures? This blog lists resources for where to begin the fight.
How to Defeat 50/50 Custody Proposed Bills in Your State
As a mental health therapist that counsels abuse survivors, I see the horrible damage every day from the abuser using the family court system to continue to harm their abused partner and their children. Proposed state laws that assume all divorces should end in 50/50 custody for the children are apt to make this situation even worse. My hope is that survivors will work together to lobby their state legislatures and squash these potential and harmful bills.
How Can I Know If I Am the Abusive One?
Hello! Today I'd like to tackle a question I often hear from my clients. They wonder who is the abusive one? Them or their partner? Because abusers are so adept at shifting the blame for their actions to their partner, survivors often wonder if THEY are the abusive...
Should I Warn My Abuser’s New Partner?
When we are free from our abusive partner and they start dating someone new, should we warn the new partner? Great question. My experience I met my ex's new girlfriend at my daughter's engagement party. Though my ex refused to speak to me, his new girlfriend was kind,...
Women in Church Leadership
For many churchgoers, women in church leadership is a hot button. There are two major schools of thought about this, complementarianism and egalitarianism. Complementarianism Complementarians believe that men and women are equal in value and dignity, but different in...
Do Christian Abuse Victims Have Rights?
Have you ever heard someone say, “Christians should surrender their rights?” Does the Bible really teach that? How can this idea be used to keep a domestic violence victim in bondage? The following was shared by Leslie Vernick as a guest blog by Rebecca Davis: One of...
Lundy Bancroft Discusses Kayden’s Law
Lundy Bancroft discusses Kayden’s law and how we can reform the family court system to make custody rulings safe for children with abusive parents.
Playing your ex-abuser’s game to win in court
When we finally get the courage to leave our abusive partners, we hope that our abuse is over. Sadly, that is rarely the case. Yes, we no longer have them in our homes, and that is wonderful. But, if we own property with them, or have children with them, we find that...
One Church Standing Beside DV Survivors
Many of us turned to our churches for help when we were with our abusive partners. Sadly, more often than not, we were told to be more submissive and respectful. Our abusers were often not held accountable. Because of this, many abuse survivors turn away from the...
When Abusers Say They Want To Change
Someone who chooses to abuse will need to make many difficult changes in order to have a healthier relationship. Major life changes take time and effort.
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