Many of us are tormented by a feeling of shame. Shame is different from guilt. Guilt is what we feel when we know we have done something wrong. It can help us to make amends, and help prevent us from doing something similar in the future. Shame tells us we ARE...
Acceptance – A Vital Part of Healing
Healing from abuse is a long, painful process. I wish that wasn't true. I wish there was a magic potion we could take, or our fairy godmother could wave her magic wand and it would all be better. Sadly, this isn't how it works. Healing takes time, but it doesn't...
When Abusers Say They Want To Change
Someone who chooses to abuse will need to make many difficult changes in order to have a healthier relationship. Major life changes take time and effort.
What is a Flying Monkey?
The origin of flying monkeys is found in The Wizard of Oz. These scary creatures did the Wicked Witch's bidding. In recent years, the term flying monkeys has come to identify people that do the bidding of abusers. This might be someone who tells the abuser's partner...
When Marital Counseling is a Bad Idea
When any type of abuse is occurring in a relationship, joint counseling is a bad idea. Not only does it not work, it actually puts the victim in greater danger.
When Divorce Saves Lives
Christian abuse victims are often told they have no biblical right to divorce. These pastors disagree.
Hanging Onto Hope Podcast
Brenda J and Karen Wonder from Hanging Onto Hope Podcast interviewed Caroline Abbott, author of “A Journey to Healing After Emotional Abuse.”
The Best Books To Read About Emotional Abuse
Sometimes reading a book about abuse is the best way to get clarity on your situation. It was for me. Reading some of the books below helped me finally break free from my abusive husband.
Why We Do the Things We Do
Our childhood wounds follow us into adulthood, causing us to make choices that we sometimes don’t understand. Only when we heal those wounds can we be fully able to make wise choices
How to Deal with Depression
Many abuse survivors deal with depression. You don’t have to stay in that place. Here are some things you can do to feel better.