When we are free from our abusive partner and they start dating someone new, should we warn the new partner? Great question. My experience I met my ex's new girlfriend at my daughter's engagement party. Though my ex refused to speak to me, his new girlfriend was kind,...
Acceptance – A Vital Part of Healing
Healing from abuse is a long, painful process. I wish that wasn't true. I wish there was a magic potion we could take, or our fairy godmother could wave her magic wand and it would all be better. Sadly, this isn't how it works. Healing takes time, but it doesn't...
Hanging Onto Hope Podcast
Brenda J and Karen Wonder from Hanging Onto Hope Podcast interviewed Caroline Abbott, author of “A Journey to Healing After Emotional Abuse.”
Why We Do the Things We Do
Our childhood wounds follow us into adulthood, causing us to make choices that we sometimes don’t understand. Only when we heal those wounds can we be fully able to make wise choices
The Long Journey from Victim to Survivor to Thriver
When we experience abuse, it affects every part of our life. It is possible to survive abuse and even thrive once we leave the abuser and find some healing.
Can EMDR Really Heal Trauma?
EMDR can be used to heal the trauma associated with domestic violence. It works quickly and the survivor does not need to talk about their painful memories.
What Does Attachment Have to Do With PTSD?
When we are not securely attached to our primary caregivers, we are more apt to experience PTSD when we are traumatized. What can we do to heal from this, and prevent it from happening to our own children?
Take Off the Pain Goggles Before Dating Again
When we end a bad relationship, our first instinct is to find someone new. If we have not healed, we often choose someone just like the person we left.
The Voice of a Sexual Abuse Survivor
The more I work with domestic violence survivors, the more I realize how many have been sexually abused as children. I am no longer shocked in my counseling sessions when someone begins sharing how their father, uncle, brother or cousin sexually abused them when they...
Squashing your ANTs – (Automatic Negative Thoughts)
In my last two blogs, I talked about how I have struggled with self-esteem issues, and what I have done to increase my self-esteem. I don't feel I have fully arrived, but I have come a long way. Today, I put on my counselor...