More About Protection/Restraining Orders
In my last blog, I shared my story of taking out a restraining order against my abusive ex-husband. For me, that was definitely the right thing to do. Should every abuse victim get a restraining order? Not necessarily. Should every abuse victim get a...
Should You Get a Restraining Order, (PPO)?
To restrain or not to restrain . . . that is the question. Professionals often suggest abuse victims get a restraining order (also known as a Personal Protection Order) as a way to reduce the contact (and abuse) from their abuser. Is this a good idea for you? That...
Heal Your Anger with God – Let His Light Get In
Last week, our pastor gave a great sermon about being angry with God, and how to resolve that anger. Here is the link. He asked: "What happens when your life falls apart?" For many of us, our lives have fallen apart because of the sinful way our abusers have treated...
Healing your Anger After Abuse
If you have recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, you may find yourself struggling with a lot of anger. This may surprise you, because often victims don't feel angry while they are with their abuser. They may feel sad, scared, worthless, or any number of...
Empower Yourself by Changing the Cycle of Abuse in Society
In my last post I asked the question, "Can any good come out of the abuse you’ve suffered?" I believe God can bring good out of any situation if we let Him. One of the ways you can bring good out of your pain is to work to change the cycle of abuse in your community...
How to Heal Your Soul from Childhood Abuse
In my last blog, I posed the question: "Will an abuse survivor ever be completely healed?" Sadly, the answer is no. Happily, you can move passed your past into a better future. But HOW can you do that? To answer that question, I would like to share the following...
Will I Ever Be Completely Healed from My Past?
I am often asked by emotional abuse survivors whether they will ever be completely healed from their abuse. Sadly, I believe the answer is no. Happily, you can move passed your past into a better future. The following is taken from my book A Journey to Healing After...
Abusers Are Liars
Abusers are liars. On some level we all know this. Yet, at times, they are able to trick us into forgetting this fact. I will give you few examples. Example A - You are divorced from your abuser. He* has week on/week off custody of your two-year old son. Your son...
Family Court through the Eyes of a CFI
I had a unique opportunity recently to interview a former Child and Family Investigator, and ask her what she thought of our current Family Court system. I spoke with Adoree Blair, who has been foster parent for 23 years, and has worked as a CFI, a Mediator, and a...
Forgiveness – Seriously?
In my blog entitled Acceptance - A Vital Part of Healing, I shared my conviction that in order to truly heal from abuse, we need to accept the fact we have been abused. I believe once we accept this fact we can learn what choices, paths, lessons and opportunities we...