Help for Sexual Assault
Many women who have experienced domestic violence have also experienced some type of sexual assault, either in their adult relationship, or as a child. Though you may not have been forcibly raped, as a child you may have: Been exposed to pornography Been exposed to...
What If My Ex Sexually Abuses My Child?
This is part two of my series on how to protect you and your kids in Family Court. See Part 1 here. What if you suspect your ex is sexually abusing your children? This is every parent’s worst nightmare.[tweetthis twitter_handles="@caroline_abbott"...
Protecting Your Kids in Family Court
So many of the abuse survivors I work with must fight their former abusive partners for custody of their kids in Family Court. The stories I've heard would turn your hair. It seems incomprehensible to the average person why a judge would give custody of innocent...
My Second Book: A Journey to Healing After Emotional Abuse
I took eighteen months to write this book. I began it when I realized there was a huge need for healing among my Facebook friends. Most of the women I work with have been released from the shackles of the abuse they’ve experienced. Yet, they are still shackled by the...
Why Do I Want to Take My Abuser Back?
I have worked with many abused women* who have left their abusers, but, instead of jumping for joy as one might expect, felt drawn back into the relationship. Why might this happen? You still love him and miss him You are struggling financially Your kids miss him and...
No Contact? How Do I Do That?
Are you on Pinterest? I joined to find pictures and blogs about domestic violence. Lately I have seen lots of pictures that talk about NO CONTACT with your abuser. This interests me, because it seems no contact is now a "thing," which I didn't know. I instituted...
Advice to a Repentant Abuser
Recently, an abusive man* contacted me via my website’s contact page. He told me he realized several months ago he had been abusing his wife for over a decade, and had stopped. Even though he was no longer abusive (his words), his wife wanted a divorce. He asked me if...
Why I Started Writing
Good Morning Friends! My good friend Amy Thomson who writes the "Picking up the Pieces" blog, recently asked me to guest blog for her and say what prompted me to write my first book, A Journey through Emotional Abuse: from Bondage to Freedom. In the blog, I describe...
Honor DVAM by Helping a Current or Former DV Victim
This is the final installment of my series on how to honor Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this blog, I suggest you can honor DVAM by helping a current or former DV victim. Current domestic violence victims may seem hard to understand. They may come to you in a...
Honor DVAM by Educating Your Church
This is Part 3 of my series on how to honor Domestic Violence Awareness Month. One great way to further domestic violence awareness is in your church, with your pastor and elders (lay leaders of the church). Most people have very little education about domestic...