For many churchgoers, women in church leadership is a hot button. There are two major schools of thought about this, complementarianism and egalitarianism. Complementarianism Complementarians believe that men and women are equal in value and dignity, but different in...
Those of us who have separated from an abuser often have to deal with questions from people who just don't get it. They are sometimes what we call "flying monkeys" - people who do the bidding of the abuser. But there may be others who are just uneducated about abuse...
Have you ever heard someone say, “Christians should surrender their rights?” Does the Bible really teach that? How can this idea be used to keep a domestic violence victim in bondage? The following was shared by Leslie Vernick as a guest blog by Rebecca Davis: One of...
Hello Dear Readers, I have a treat for you today, a poem from Karla, a domestic violence survivor. She also survived a decade of post-divorce legal abuse. She is a graduate student and hopes to become a professional writer one day. Here is her poem: ...
Hello my friends! Do you love to read? I do! I have been a voracious reader since I was 8 years old. Mostly, I love to read fiction, a good release from a sometimes harsh world. My love of reading encouraged me to write 2 books of my own, books about experiencing and...
Lundy Bancroft discusses Kayden’s law and how we can reform the family court system to make custody rulings safe for children with abusive parents.
When we finally get the courage to leave our abusive partners, we hope that our abuse is over. Sadly, that is rarely the case. Yes, we no longer have them in our homes, and that is wonderful. But, if we own property with them, or have children with them, we find that...
Many of us turned to our churches for help when we were with our abusive partners. Sadly, more often than not, we were told to be more submissive and respectful. Our abusers were often not held accountable. Because of this, many abuse survivors turn away from the...
Laura Moseley, creator of DV Walking Wounded, tells her story of looking for help from her church for the abuse in her marriage. Sadly the church wasn’t helpful. She has not let her past stop her. She now helps others experiencing abuse.
Many of us are tormented by a feeling of shame. Shame is different from guilt. Guilt is what we feel when we know we have done something wrong. It can help us to make amends, and help prevent us from doing something similar in the future. Shame tells us we ARE...
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