In my last blog, I talked about the fine line between emotional abuse and physical abuse. I recommended emotional abuse victims call their local domestic violence crisis center and police department to become educated. I suggested they ask questions to determine what...
When Emotional Abuse Turns Physical. How Can a Victim Prepare?
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Many will speak out this month against what UNICEF calls, "one of the most pervasive human rights violations in the world today." Let me add my voice. The more who speak up, the better. Many people do not understand the...
Pregnancy and Domestic Violence
Pregnancy should be a wonderful time of planning, dreaming, and bonding between a pregnant woman and her partner. This is not the experience of a woman who is being abused by that partner. Studies show that 25% of women will be abused for the first time when they are...
When Churches Get it Wrong
Lately I’ve been posting comments and questions to my twitter and Facebook accounts about churches and how they help or hinder the abused. If you ask your church for help with domestic violence, and they tell you to submit, pray harder or be a better wife, they can't...
Tattoos and Violence
My husband and I have a heart for Human Trafficking victims. When we were in Central America last month, we had the opportunity to meet some women who had been rescued out of Sex Trafficking. They are now involved in a Christian ministry which helps them learn a...
A Journey Through Emotional Abuse
God walked with me for 7 years to help me write a book for abuse victims called A Journey Through Emotional Abuse: From Bondage to Freedom. I wrote the book primarily for women suffering from emotional abuse in their marriages, but the book can be used for men as...
Don’t Cover It Up
Many of you may have seen a video created by British make-up artist Lauren Luke called “How to Look Your Best the Morning After”. Here is the link. Note: the video is no longer available, but the article is still there. Ms. Luke made this video in partnership with the...
How About Some Good News?
Dealing with domestic violence often means hearing sad stories. Today I would like to share some good news. These stories are found on the PADV (Partnership Against Domestic Violence) website. PADV’s mission is to end the crime of intimate partner violence and empower...
How to Assess the Danger of a Fatality by an Abuser
Domestic Violence Advocates have a great tool at their disposal. It is called the Danger Assessment Instrument. Once trained, an advocate can help an abuse victim discern whether she is in imminent danger of being killed by her abuser. Of course, nothing is...
How to Recognize a Potentially Abusive Relationship
I like to write about how to recognize potential abuse in relationships because I remember how long it took me to realize I was being abused. Emotional abuse is especially hard to recognize. When my marriage got difficult, I kept thinking I was doing something wrong,...