I work with many abused and formerly abused women. Their lives have been shattered by the evil actions of their husband or boyfriend. This is a person they love(d) and trust(ed) to take care of them. Instead of receiving love and protection however, their “loved one”...
A Journey Through Emotional Abuse
God walked with me for 7 years to help me write a book for abuse victims called A Journey Through Emotional Abuse: From Bondage to Freedom. I wrote the book primarily for women suffering from emotional abuse in their marriages, but the book can be used for men as...
How About Some Good News?
Dealing with domestic violence often means hearing sad stories. Today I would like to share some good news. These stories are found on the PADV (Partnership Against Domestic Violence) website. PADV’s mission is to end the crime of intimate partner violence and empower...
How Does Verbal and Emotional Abuse Make You Feel?
How does verbal and emotional abuse make a person feel? Some people feel as if they are “going crazy”. Here is the way it is described in the book Stop! You’re Driving Me Crazy, by George R. Bach and Ronald M. Deutsch. You are always thrown off-balance. You may be...
How to Recognize a Potentially Abusive Relationship
I like to write about how to recognize potential abuse in relationships because I remember how long it took me to realize I was being abused. Emotional abuse is especially hard to recognize. When my marriage got difficult, I kept thinking I was doing something wrong,...
My Story of Abuse
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Beverly Diehl is highlighting one story per day this month from a victim of DV on her Writing in the Flow website. I am honored that she chose my story to present today. Here is the link. You can also read my...
God Wants Us to Be Free – Part 1
This week, I have been studying Beth Moore’s Breaking Free* bible study. On week 1, Day 5, page 26, she writes, “God hears the cry of the oppressed. God even hears the cries of those who have been oppressed as a result of sin and rebellion. We must never cease...
The Clothesline Project
This video is silent, as most victims of domestic violence have traditionally been. But it shouts a few big points: 1. There are more victims of sexual, emotional and physical abuse out there than people are aware of. 2. The pain this causes cannot be minimized. 3....
How Do You Know When You Are Being Abused – 2
In my last blog I talked about how hard it is for an abuse victim (you) to decide whether you are being abused, especially if the abuse is not physical. Why is this? There are many reasons: 1. Your abuser blames his* behavior on you. 2. He denies what he is doing. 3....
How Do You Know When You Are Being Abused?
One of the hardest things about verbal abuse is figuring out if you are being abused. That was my biggest problem. I didn't have any bruises or broken bones to point to. My husband was so good at turning every argument around that I thought, "Maybe that was my...