When any type of abuse is occurring in a relationship, joint counseling is a bad idea. Not only does it not work, it actually puts the victim in greater danger.
Pastors, Protect Your Church
The folks at A Cry For Justice recently shared a guest blog written by an American pastor. After dealing with abusers in his own church, this pastor came to several surprising conclusions about how a pastor should handle abuse within the church. It was so right on, I...
What Lies Do You Believe?
Many of us unconsciously believe lies about ourselves, others, and God. Being abused can mess with your mind. We begin believing the negative (untrue) things our abusers say about us. Then, without realizing it, we act on the lies we believe. An example of this is...
How Churches Can Get it Right
In my last blog, I told the story of how I asked two different pastors at my church for help when I was being abused by my first husband. In both cases, my pastors were unable to give me the help I needed. Because of their lack of knowledge about domestic violence, I...
Abuse is not a “marital issue”
I believe engaging in “marriage counseling” with an abuser is not only futile, but can be dangerous for the victim. I have written about this before. Today, I’d like to look at this from the point of view of a counselor, Brad Hambrick, M.Div., Th.M., who is the...
My Experience with Marriage Counseling
Last week I shared a blog from Kellie Jo Holly’s website Verbal Abuse Journals entitled “I Tried Marriage Counseling”. In my blog I talked about the fact that though many abuse victims are told to go to couples counseling with their abusers, many people don’t realize...
Should You Try Marriage Counseling?
I would like to introduce you to another site that focuses on verbal abuse, written by Kellie Jo Holly. It is called Verbal Abuse Journals. Here is the link. One of her blogs is entitled "I tried Marriage Counseling”. In her blog she describes going to marriage...
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