If you have recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, you may find yourself struggling with a lot of anger. This may surprise you, because often victims don't feel angry while they are with their abuser. They may feel sad, scared, worthless, or any number of...
I believe one of the best things a survivor of abuse can do to help with her* healing is to get out of the house and be among loving, caring friends. You might agree . . . in theory. However, the people who you thought were your friends when you were with your abuser...
Are you on Pinterest? I joined to find pictures and blogs about domestic violence. Lately I have seen lots of pictures that talk about NO CONTACT with your abuser. This interests me, because it seems no contact is now a "thing," which I didn't know. I instituted...
Recently, an abusive man* contacted me via my website’s contact page. He told me he realized several months ago he had been abusing his wife for over a decade, and had stopped. Even though he was no longer abusive (his words), his wife wanted a divorce. He asked me if...
Today, I continue my series on dating after abuse by summarizing some great advice found in Emily Avagliano's book, Dating after Trauma: How to Find the Love of Your Life After Experiencing an Abusive Relationship, Rape or Sexual Abuse. The following is taken from my...
In my last blog, I talked about how I was depressed last week because I'd allowed a family member to walk all over me. I then needed to figure out, what to do about it? My first instinct was to push this person out of my life. Well, you can't really do that with...
Learn to Say "Stop It!" Last week I began my series on Holding Your Abuser Accountable. In this series I am describing the process Jesus outlines in Matthew 18 for holding a brother who sins against you accountable. This series is for you if you or someone you...
I believe that the only hope for anyone to change is for him/her to feel the need to change. Let's say you are in a destructive relationship. If your destructive partner's actions are working for them, there is no reason for them to change. When their actions start...
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