Last week, our pastor gave a great sermon about being angry with God, and how to resolve that anger. Here is the link. He asked: "What happens when your life falls apart?" For many of us, our lives have fallen apart because of the sinful way our abusers have treated...
If you have recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, you may find yourself struggling with a lot of anger. This may surprise you, because often victims don't feel angry while they are with their abuser. They may feel sad, scared, worthless, or any number of...
In my blog entitled Acceptance - A Vital Part of Healing, I shared my conviction that in order to truly heal from abuse, we need to accept the fact we have been abused. I believe once we accept this fact we can learn what choices, paths, lessons and opportunities we...
Recently, an abusive man* contacted me via my website’s contact page. He told me he realized several months ago he had been abusing his wife for over a decade, and had stopped. Even though he was no longer abusive (his words), his wife wanted a divorce. He asked me if...
In my last blog, I gave several reasons why forgiving yourself is important when healing from abuse. Today, I’d like to share some practical steps for doing this. The following is taken from my book, A Journey to Healing after Emotional Abuse. Step 1 – Seek God’s...
Abuse victims struggle with forgiveness . . . for good reason. The person they love most, and who was supposed to love them, has treated them worse than most people would treat their worst enemy. This is a betrayal of the worst order. How does one forgive that? Why...
Recently something very painful happened in our family. One of our family members made some life choices that went against everything we believe in as a family. The implications of this are going to affect everyone in the family for years to come. I have had a very...
How should a woman who has left an abusive relationship begin to heal from it? This is a question that many women I speak to struggle with. I believe the first thing she must do is set boundaries around any continued relationship she has with their former abuser. As...
Once you are free from your abuser, you might find that you are not truly emotionally free. Now you must deal with fierce ANGER toward your abuser. How can you get free from that? First of all, anger is understandable, and normal. A person who has been abused...
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