What Does the Bible Say about Abuse?
I am continuing my intensive course. This week, my friend Rose Saad, author of A Path to Hope, was kind enough to write a guest blog for me. Many of us have tried to seek wisdom about domestic violence from our churches and/or the bible. Often, our churches have...
Help! I’m Getting Divorced, Now What?
Are you facing a divorce? Perhaps you have finally gotten the courage to leave your abusive spouse. Or, your spouse cheated on you multiple times. Whatever the reason you are in this place, it sucks. I've been there. My divorce took 18 months. The courts gave my...
Why Do I Still Love My Abuser?
I speak to many abuse victims. They contact me to understand whether they really are being abused. They contact me to seek help in leaving their abusers. Some even contact me to ask me why they still love their abusers. This is my topic for today. How is it possible...
Helping Employees with Domestic Violence
Employers often don't realize that domestic violence is affecting their business. Domestic violence reaches every facet of our community, including the workplace. According to DomesticShelters.org*, domestic violence causes victims to lose 175,000 days of work per...
In Order to Heal, We Must Feel
Good morning my friends! I am currently rereading a book by Stephen Arterburn, entitled Healing is a Choice: Ten Decisions that Will Transform Your Life and Ten Lies that Can Prevent You from Making Them.* It is quite brilliant. Each chapter talks about a lie that we...
Invalidation – A Favorite Tool of an Abuser
Abusers have many tools in their tool belt. One of their greatest tools is to invalidate you. What does this invalidation look like? The abuser tries to talk you out of your...
I Am So Thankful for DomesticShelters.org
Have you ever heard of DomesticShelters.org? I truly hope so. If you follow me on Facebook, you probably have because I am one of their biggest fans. DomesticShelters.org began two years ago, through a partnership of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence...
Standing Up for Yourself by Using Boundaries
In my last blog I shared how to spot a bully, and gave some specific ways to combat the manipulation of a bully. This week, I would like to talk about using personal boundaries to protect yourself from these sharks. Many women are not taught how to stand up for...
Spotting and Dealing with a Bully
Remember those bullies from school? They seemed oh so powerful and strong . . . no one had the guts to stand up to them. Abusers are bullies in disguise. In the beginning they look like lambs when they are really wolves, or dolphins when they are really sharks. Those...
Announcing: DV Guide for Churches
In my last blog, I shared what happened to me when I asked my church for help when I was being abused. Then I asked the question, "Have you ever sought help from your church for domestic violence? If so, what happened?" I got many responses, all of which made me sad....
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