How the Abuse You Receive Affects Your Kids
In my last blog, I talked about how seeing or experiencing domestic violence affects the lifelong health of children. Today, I explore this further. This is a tough topic, something about which no protective parent wants to think. However, I believe this is vital...
How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime
I recently heard a TedTalk given by Dr. Nadine Burke Harris that talks about how childhood trauma affects a person's health across a lifetime. Even though I have written about this before, hearing it again still shocked me....
Thinking Through If/When You Should Leave
Deciding whether to leave an abusive relationship is not an easy task. People who have never been in this situation often don't understand this. In their...
Steps to TRUE Reconciliation
Reconciliation. What does this truly mean? Many abusers beg or demand their victims to forgive them for their past behaviors, even though they take no steps to change their future behaviors. At this point, in the abuser's mind at least, you are reconciled. They may...
Biblical Grounds for Divorce
Abuse victims in the church are often kept in bondage because they are told that abuse is not "biblical grounds for divorce." Leslie Vernick disagrees, (and so do I). In a recent blog, Leslie answered the question, "What are biblical grounds for divorce when there is...
Do You Know the Signs of Verbal Abuse?
Does your intimate partner ever say you are too sensitive? Or say something cruel and then say, "I was just joking"? These are two signs that you are being verbally abused. I recently came upon an article that gives a great description of verbal/emotional abuse. Here...
Squashing your ANTs – (Automatic Negative Thoughts)
In my last two blogs, I talked about how I have struggled with self-esteem issues, and what I have done to increase my self-esteem. I don't feel I have fully arrived, but I have come a long way. Today, I put on my counselor...
How to Forgive the Unforgivable?
Forgiveness? What the heck? Why am I even talking about this? Most of you reading this today have been abused, either in childhood or by an intimate partner. The things that have happened to you should never happen to any person. Ever. I totally get that. So, I am not...
How Can We Heal Our Hearts?
Many of us are walking around with broken hearts. This isn't visible to those around us, but it is a reality. How can we mend these broken hearts? I recently read a great piece on this in the book The Essential Guide to Healing by Pastors Bill Johnson and Randy Clark....
Biblical Divorce – A Pastor’s Perspective
What do you believe about divorce? Many believe that according to the Bible, the only two valid causes for divorce are adultery and abandonment by an unbeliever. I have written about this before. I also talk extensively about what the Bible says about divorce in my...
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