When Churches Get it Wrong
Lately I’ve been posting comments and questions to my twitter and Facebook accounts about churches and how they help or hinder the abused. If you ask your church for help with domestic violence, and they tell you to submit, pray harder or be a better wife, they can't...
Returning (Reluctantly) to the Days of Emotional Abuse
Today I would like to get more personal than I usually do . . . here goes. I am a step-mom. I am also a survivor of domestic violence. Some days these two don’t collide, but often they do. Let me explain. I love my stepchildren, but make no mistake, being a step...
Satan is NOT Stronger than God
I often hear that Satan is God’s enemy, which is true. However, Satan isn’t God’s equal. He is no match for God. We often believe that God is in a neck-to-neck war with Satan. Who will win we wonder? While it may appear that Satan will win a battle, there is no...
Holidays Are Painful for the Abused
The holidays can be extra painful for victims of domestic violence. All around you are images of happy people sitting by cozy fires opening gifts together, or gathered around a table laden with wonderful food. There are parties to attend where everyone is smiling and...
How Can We Fight Human Trafficking?
What is human trafficking? It is a criminal activity in which human beings are treated as possessions to be controlled and exploited; such as being forced into prostitution or involuntary labor. A simpler definition – human trafficking is modern-day slavery. Slavery...
Lies Childhood Domestic Violence Teaches and the Truths that Set Victims Free
Children who grow up in homes where they experience domestic violence learn lies about themselves. Because they believe these lies, they often get into domestic violence relationships as adults – as the perpetrator or the victim. Here are some examples of some of...
Abuse is not a “marital issue”
I believe engaging in “marriage counseling” with an abuser is not only futile, but can be dangerous for the victim. I have written about this before. Today, I’d like to look at this from the point of view of a counselor, Brad Hambrick, M.Div., Th.M., who is the...
How Can an Abuse Victim Know If/When to Reconcile?
How can an abuse victim know when it is safe to reconcile with her* seemingly repentant abuser? The average number of times an abuse victim will return to her abuser is 7. If after she leaves, a victim returns to her abuser 6 times, then leaves again, this implies...
What is Emotional Abuse?
Today's blog is an excerpt from my book, A Journey through Emotional Abuse:From Bondage to Freedom. Please note that this book is written specifically for Christian women facing emotional abuse. Because of this, I identify the abuser as "he" and the abused as "she"....
Healing for Kids and Teens in Families of DV
Children living in homes with domestic violence will be affected in numerous ways.* This can be depressing. What is a non-abusive parent to do? Can anything be done to help their children to heal? Yes, there are. Today I present good news and advice from Promising...
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