Come as You are
Merry Christmas my friends. Some of you are joyous today, and others intensely sad. No matter how you are feeling, I’d love to share a beautiful song with you. It is Crowder’s song, Come as You Are*. It perfectly describes the love and freedom we have in Jesus. Here...
Live at Peace
Jesus came to earth so we could live at peace with God and with others. A victim of domestic violence can be at peace with God, but she* will never be able to be at peace with her abuser. Paul the apostle counsels us in Romans 12:18: If it is possible, as far as it...
Thanks Mom
My friend Nicole of Nikky’s Strength and Weakness, is blogging every day in the month of December about gratitude. She got this idea from another blogger, Jodi Aman. You can check out both these ladies via this link. Jodi reminds us that when we focus on being...
How to Forgive Yourself
In my last blog, I gave several reasons why forgiving yourself is important when healing from abuse. Today, I’d like to share some practical steps for doing this. The following is taken from my book, A Journey to Healing after Emotional Abuse. Step 1 – Seek God’s...
Forgiving Yourself
Abuse victims struggle with forgiveness . . . for good reason. The person they love most, and who was supposed to love them, has treated them worse than most people would treat their worst enemy. This is a betrayal of the worst order. How does one forgive that? Why...
Potential Police Response to Domestic Violence Calls
In my last blog, I talked about the fine line between emotional abuse and physical abuse. I recommended emotional abuse victims call their local domestic violence crisis center and police department to become educated. I suggested they ask questions to determine what...
When Emotional Abuse Turns Physical. How Can a Victim Prepare?
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Many will speak out this month against what UNICEF calls, "one of the most pervasive human rights violations in the world today." Let me add my voice. The more who speak up, the better. Many people do not understand the...
How Can We as a Society Prevent Domestic Violence?
I am passionate about preventing domestic violence. I believe we as a society can and should attack this problem on several fronts. I’ve written blogs about many of these. Click on the blue to read more about each one: Raise our sons not to be entitled – but to...
Domesticshelters.org is Here!
I am thrilled to announce a wonderful resource for victims of domestic violence. The first national online searchable domestic violence provider database in the United States went live this week. You can find it at www.domesticshelters.org. Why is this so exciting?...
Pregnancy and Domestic Violence
Pregnancy should be a wonderful time of planning, dreaming, and bonding between a pregnant woman and her partner. This is not the experience of a woman who is being abused by that partner. Studies show that 25% of women will be abused for the first time when they are...