What If It Isn’t Well With My Soul?
Life can be hard. Especially if you are in an abusive relationship, or healing from one. Or if you are a woman, or a human. You catch my drift. Life can be hard for all of us sometimes. And sometimes that hymn "It Is Well With My Soul" can make you want to vomit. What...
Our Stories Matter
One thing I've learned as a domestic violence advocate - every survivor's story matters. Every time a victim survives the hell s/he's lived through, it is another point in the "win" column.Every time a victim survives the hell s/he's lived through, it's a...
Abusers Are Liars
Abusers are liars. On some level we all know this. Yet, at times, they are able to trick us into forgetting this fact. I will give you few examples. Example A - You are divorced from your abuser. He* has week on/week off custody of your two-year old son. Your son...
Family Court through the Eyes of a CFI
I had a unique opportunity recently to interview a former Child and Family Investigator, and ask her what she thought of our current Family Court system. I spoke with Adoree Blair, who has been foster parent for 23 years, and has worked as a CFI, a Mediator, and a...
Forgiveness – Seriously?
In my blog entitled Acceptance - A Vital Part of Healing, I shared my conviction that in order to truly heal from abuse, we need to accept the fact we have been abused. I believe once we accept this fact we can learn what choices, paths, lessons and opportunities we...
A Letter to Friends of DV Victims
Today, I am reblogging an excellent blog from my new friend who writes for forget me not. Check it out! A Letter to the Family and Friends of Victims May God bless you today! Caroline
Do You Isolate Yourself?
I believe one of the best things a survivor of abuse can do to help with her* healing is to get out of the house and be among loving, caring friends. You might agree . . . in theory. However, the people who you thought were your friends when you were with your abuser...
Help for Sexual Assault
Many women who have experienced domestic violence have also experienced some type of sexual assault, either in their adult relationship, or as a child. Though you may not have been forcibly raped, as a child you may have: Been exposed to pornography Been exposed to...
The Lord Calls for Justice
I just finished my month of reading the bible every day. Toward the end of the month, we were to read the book of Amos. As I did a few weeks ago, I read these two chapters, and wrote down anything that stood out to me. Then, I went back and tried to identify what the...
Drowning – A Great Novel About DV
Do you like to read? I do! Give me a good novel, especially one with a bit of a mystery, and I can lose an entire afternoon curled up reading. If you combine a good novel that has a bit of mystery with my passion of domestic violence, all the better! Let me introduce...