What do you think of when you hear the word self-care? Do you picture your friend who must get her nails done weekly, who plays with her iPhone for hours at a time while her preschoolers run outside without supervision? Do you picture your spouse who ignores you, your...
The statistics for domestic violence are staggering. According to the National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey created by the Center for Disease Control, "1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men in the United States have experienced some form of physical violence by...
Those who have experienced domestic violence in their intimate partner relationships or families may have been abused in many ways: emotionally, psychologically, physically, sexually, financially. Often, they will also experience spiritual abuse. What exactly is...
Have you ever been on a retreat? My church offers women's retreats once every other year. They usually invite a speaker who gives a talk 3 or 4 times over the weekend. We breakout into small groups to discuss what the speaker has talked about, and get to know each...
When we are not securely attached to our primary caregivers, we are more apt to experience PTSD when we are traumatized. What can we do to heal from this, and prevent it from happening to our own children?
When we end a bad relationship, our first instinct is to find someone new. If we have not healed, we often choose someone just like the person we left.
In my last blog, I talked about how many of us tend to overfunction in our relationships. Think this is a 21st century idea? Nope. Moses, the prophet who led the Israelites out of Egypt was the quintessential overfunctioner. In Exodus 18:13, we see Moses acting as...
Do you over-function in your relationships? Many of us do. What do I mean by over-functioning? Before I describe over-functioning, let me describe someone who is functioning optimally. (I found these descriptions in a blog by Dr. Will Meek.) Optimal Functioning...
Submission - What the Bible Really Says Biblical Submission. This is a difficult topic. Many abusive spouses and churches take what God meant for good and twist it into something that keeps women in bondage to their abusive spouses. So, what does the Bible really say?...
In my last blog, I talked about the ways your kids have been affected by the abuse you've experienced, a difficult topic. Today, I will talk about how you can begin to help them heal from the domestic violence you have all experienced once you are no longer...
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