Author Lundy Bancroft has written a great book called Why Does He DO That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men. I reference it on my Get Help page, and I recommend that everyone interested in domestic violence read it. In addition, Mr. Bancroft did a...
Today I checked out Pastor Jeff Crippen's excellent website which is called A Cry for Justice. Pastor Crippen writes about domestic violence in the Christian church. He often talks about the disservice Christians do when they try to counsel abused Christian women....
This video is silent, as most victims of domestic violence have traditionally been. But it shouts a few big points: 1. There are more victims of sexual, emotional and physical abuse out there than people are aware of. 2. The pain this causes cannot be minimized. 3....
I have been talking about what to do if you decide you are being abused. One of the most important things to do is to get information. One of the best places to get this information is to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or TTY...
In my last blog, I talked about what you should do if you think you are being abused. One of the things I suggested was finding some friends or family who could be a support to you. One of the best methods abusers have for continuing their bad behavior is to isolate...
First of all, I would advise you not to talk to your partner about this. The main goal of an abuser is to gain control over his victim. He may have been doing quite a nice job of this by many methods: verbal, emotional, spiritual, sexual, economic, or physical abuse...
In my last blog I talked about how hard it is for an abuse victim (you) to decide whether you are being abused, especially if the abuse is not physical. Why is this? There are many reasons: 1. Your abuser blames his* behavior on you. 2. He denies what he is doing. 3....
One of the hardest things about verbal abuse is figuring out if you are being abused. That was my biggest problem. I didn't have any bruises or broken bones to point to. My husband was so good at turning every argument around that I thought, "Maybe that was my...
It happened again. I spoke to a female abuse victim whose husband took Bible verses that were originally meant to protect women, and instead, used them to hurt her. The following is taken from my book A Journey through Emotional Abuse: from Bondage to Freedom. Women...
An abuser will often tell his Christian wife that she must “submit to” or “obey” him when he treats her with disrespect or abuse. But what does the bible say? Ephesians 5:21 - 33 is one of the places in the bible that has the most to say about marital submission. This...
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