I believe engaging in “marriage counseling” with an abuser is not only futile, but can be dangerous for the victim. I have written about this before. Today, I’d like to look at this from the point of view of a counselor, Brad Hambrick, M.Div., Th.M., who is the...
How Can an Abuse Victim Know If/When to Reconcile?
How can an abuse victim know when it is safe to reconcile with her* seemingly repentant abuser? The average number of times an abuse victim will return to her abuser is 7. If after she leaves, a victim returns to her abuser 6 times, then leaves again, this implies...
What is Emotional Abuse?
Today's blog is an excerpt from my book, A Journey through Emotional Abuse:From Bondage to Freedom. Please note that this book is written specifically for Christian women facing emotional abuse. Because of this, I identify the abuser as "he" and the abused as "she"....
Healing for Kids and Teens in Families of DV
Children living in homes with domestic violence will be affected in numerous ways.* This can be depressing. What is a non-abusive parent to do? Can anything be done to help their children to heal? Yes, there are. Today I present good news and advice from Promising...
A New Idea for Handling DV Court Cases
The last two weeks, I've described the “in”justice system as many DV victims and I experienced it. Today, I would like to share a ray of hope. A municipal judge in Toledo, Ohio is calling for the creation of a new type of court system to handle domestic violence cases...
The “In”Justice System – II
Last week I began describing my journey through the “injustice” system when I separated from my abusive husband. Here is the link to last week’s blog. Today, I will continue the story. Both parts of the story are excerpts from my new book A Journey through Emotional...
The “In”Justice System
Judges who refuse to issue restraining orders for women whose lives are obviously in danger, or Judges who give custody of minor children to fathers who have proven, frightening records of domestic violence. Often these men have not only physically abused the mothers,...
Abused Women Following the Shepherd
I work with many abused and formerly abused women. Their lives have been shattered by the evil actions of their husband or boyfriend. This is a person they love(d) and trust(ed) to take care of them. Instead of receiving love and protection however, their “loved one”...
Tattoos and Violence
My husband and I have a heart for Human Trafficking victims. When we were in Central America last month, we had the opportunity to meet some women who had been rescued out of Sex Trafficking. They are now involved in a Christian ministry which helps them learn a...
Men Helping to End Domestic Violence – 2
In my last blog, I shared articles about men standing up to end domestic violence in two foreign countries – Ecuador and Sierra Leone. Here is the link to my last blog. This week I would like to highlight some efforts being made by men in the United States and the...