I instituted almost complete no contact with my ex-husband ten years ago when I got a restraining order against him. We haven't spoken on the phone for 10 years. We communicate solely by email. It is pretty wonderful actually. The only reason we communicate at all is...
I have found healing from abuse can sometimes feel as if I am lost in the darkness. When in the darkness, I don't know where to turn, or what to hold onto. Other times, I feel wonderful, and I barely remember the dark times. Healing is a confusing, up and down ride...
Recently, an abusive man* contacted me via my website’s contact page. He told me he realized several months ago he had been abusing his wife for over a decade, and had stopped. Even though he was no longer abusive (his words), his wife wanted a divorce. He asked me if...
Good Morning Friends! My good friend Amy Thomson who writes the "Picking up the Pieces" blog, recently asked me to guest blog for her and say what prompted me to write my first book, A Journey through Emotional Abuse: from Bondage to Freedom. In the blog, I describe...
Have you ever experienced this? You begin thinking about a topic, and suddenly, that topic, whatever it is, is all around you? People are talking about it, Pastors are preaching about it, and the books you read are focusing on it? That is what has happened to me...
This is the final installment of my series on how to honor Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this blog, I suggest you can honor DVAM by helping a current or former DV victim. Current domestic violence victims may seem hard to understand. They may come to you in a...
This is Part 3 of my series on how to honor Domestic Violence Awareness Month. One great way to further domestic violence awareness is in your church, with your pastor and elders (lay leaders of the church). Most people have very little education about domestic...
Good Morning friends! Today begins week two of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Last week I gave several ideas for very public ways to bring awareness to the dangers of domestic violence. This week, I'd like to take a different focus. For those of us who have...
The month of October is set aside for Domestic Violence Awareness. Yes, it is also unfortunately Breast Cancer Awareness Month, which draws a lot of attention away from DV awareness. Lets not let that stop us my friends!! Women in the US have a 1 in 8 chance of...
I know many women (and men) who have come out of abusive relationships. Sometimes they jump right back into one. There are many reasons for this. One of them is that they feel adrift without their abusive mate, and they have not yet learned to value themselves. So,...
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