I sometimes hear people say, "Nothing good ever came from the web." I disagree. I have made friends, learned a ton, and built a support network online. Recently I was contacted by a group called IssuesIFace.com. They found my blog online, and asked me to write about...
In my last blog, I shared what happened to me when I asked my church for help when I was being abused. Then I asked the question, "Have you ever sought help from your church for domestic violence? If so, what happened?" I got many responses, all of which made me sad....
Victims of domestic violence often turn to their churches for help. Many church leaders are not educated in domestic violence and unwittingly aid the abuser instead of the victim. My Experience Many years ago, I was an abuse victim. I became afraid of my...
Has this ever happened to you? You know something is wrong with your life, and you need to change it. Then you hear someone else's story of suffering and you think, "What do I have to complain about? I'm just a wimp! Look what that person is dealing with, it is so...
In my last blog I asked the question, are all abusers sociopaths? That is unclear, but they certainly have similarities. According to Dr. Martha Stout in her book The Sociopath Next Door, 1 in 25 Americans is a sociopath! Yikes! How do we protect ourselves from...
Many domestic violence survivors believe all abusers are socio- or psychopaths. I've asked experts in the field of domestic violence if they agree. These experts say we shouldn't label abusers because if an abuser should be labeled a "sociopath," he**** would...
In my last blog, I shared my story of taking out a restraining order against my abusive ex-husband. For me, that was definitely the right thing to do. Should every abuse victim get a restraining order? Not necessarily. Should every abuse victim get a...
To restrain or not to restrain . . . that is the question. Professionals often suggest abuse victims get a restraining order (also known as a Personal Protection Order) as a way to reduce the contact (and abuse) from their abuser. Is this a good idea for you? That...
Are you going through a time when God is not answering your prayers? If you are in an abusive relationship, you are very likely praying God will change your partner so s/he stops abusing you. I was in that place for 10 years. I prayed constantly for my husband, and...
In my last blog, I shared my pastor's sermon about how we can heal our anger with God. Today I will share how when we wrestle with God, He heals us. Have you ever been told by a well-meaning Christian, "Everything happens for a reason?" Did you know this doesn't...
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