Many domestic violence survivors believe all abusers are socio- or psychopaths. I've asked experts in the field of domestic violence if they agree. These experts say we shouldn't label abusers because if an abuser should be labeled a "sociopath," he**** would...
In my last blog, I shared my story of taking out a restraining order against my abusive ex-husband. For me, that was definitely the right thing to do. Should every abuse victim get a restraining order? Not necessarily. Should every abuse victim get a...
To restrain or not to restrain . . . that is the question. Professionals often suggest abuse victims get a restraining order (also known as a Personal Protection Order) as a way to reduce the contact (and abuse) from their abuser. Is this a good idea for you? That...
Are you going through a time when God is not answering your prayers? If you are in an abusive relationship, you are very likely praying God will change your partner so s/he stops abusing you. I was in that place for 10 years. I prayed constantly for my husband, and...
In my last blog, I shared my pastor's sermon about how we can heal our anger with God. Today I will share how when we wrestle with God, He heals us. Have you ever been told by a well-meaning Christian, "Everything happens for a reason?" Did you know this doesn't...
Last week, our pastor gave a great sermon about being angry with God, and how to resolve that anger. Here is the link. He asked: "What happens when your life falls apart?" For many of us, our lives have fallen apart because of the sinful way our abusers have treated...
If you have recently left an emotionally abusive relationship, you may find yourself struggling with a lot of anger. This may surprise you, because often victims don't feel angry while they are with their abuser. They may feel sad, scared, worthless, or any number of...
In my last post I asked the question, "Can any good come out of the abuse you’ve suffered?" I believe God can bring good out of any situation if we let Him. One of the ways you can bring good out of your pain is to work to change the cycle of abuse in your community...
Can any good come out of the abuse you've suffered? I believe God can bring good out of any situation, if we let him, (Romans 8:28). But in those dark days of pain, this is often hard to envision. One of the best ways God brings good from our pain is to allow us to...
In my last blog, I posed the question: "Will an abuse survivor ever be completely healed?" Sadly, the answer is no. Happily, you can move passed your past into a better future. But HOW can you do that? To answer that question, I would like to share the following...
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