The most dangerous time for an abused woman* is when she is trying to leave her abuser or shortly after she has. Why is this? It is because an abuser doesn’t want to lose his control over her. An abusive man has a lot of perks in the relationship. Basically, he is...
After the Abuse is Over, How Do You Deal with the Anger?
Once you are free from your abuser, you might find that you are not truly emotionally free. Now you must deal with fierce ANGER toward your abuser. How can you get free from that? First of all, anger is understandable, and normal. A person who has been abused...
Do Abusers Know What They Are Doing?
Does an abuser realize he* is being abusive? Does he know what he is doing? Author Lundy Bancroft says “Yes”. The following is taken from my book A Journey Through Emotional Abuse: from Bondage to Freedom. Why would a husband, especially one who claims to be a...
Divorce Is Good?
My friend “Stacy” is a licensed professional counselor. She is also a Christian who was abused. She says, “if the higher divorce rate today means that many of us abused women* are getting out, when our mothers and grandmothers stayed in abusive marriages, this is...
My Story of Abuse
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Beverly Diehl is highlighting one story per day this month from a victim of DV on her Writing in the Flow website. I am honored that she chose my story to present today. Here is the link. You can also read my...