DV Victim & Parent-What’s it Feel Like?
I often talk about the difficulties of being a victim of domestic violence. I’ve also talked about how detrimental DV is to the children in the family. But I haven’t said much about the pain of being a DV victim who is also a parent. Why do I make this distinction?...
I don’t want to look back
I saw an interesting blog last week written by Mike McBride of ChildAbuseSurvivor.net. Mike writes about abuse as an adult male who was abused as a child. In his blog, he talks about healing from abuse, and growing older. He says many abuse survivors try to heal so...
Things are not what they seem
I'm reading the book Waking the Dead: The Glory of a Heart Fully Alive by John Eldridge. Today I read something that struck me. He talks about great stories, and how they often teach us what we see in our daily lives is not the full picture. For example, in the Wizard...
Are You Ready to Date?
In last week's blog I began my series about dating after abuse by looking at what the bible says about divorce and remarriage. This week I will help you decide if you are ready to date. This is an important question for someone who has previously been in an abusive...
We Store Our Trauma in Our Bodies
I put off taking a yoga class for years, though many friends, counselors and doctors had recommended it to me. I knew it was often very “new age,” and I didn’t want to deal with that. When I finally tried it, I found that to indeed be true. When instructors begin...
When God Intervenes
In my last blog I described how I decided to use boundaries and consequences to deal with the poor behavior of a family member. My husband and I had our plan in place, and were almost ready to implement it when God intervened. We had signed up for a parenting...
Boundaries to the Rescue
In my last blog, I talked about how I was depressed last week because I'd allowed a family member to walk all over me. I then needed to figure out, what to do about it? My first instinct was to push this person out of my life. Well, you can't really do that with...
Do You Ever Get Depressed?
Last week was awful. For the third year in a row, I sunk into a deep depression in winter. Yes, I do think this is partly due to S.A.D., otherwise known as Seasonal Affected Disorder. It is February after all. I've been sitting in the house, attached to my computer...
Come as You are
Merry Christmas my friends. Some of you are joyous today, and others intensely sad. No matter how you are feeling, I’d love to share a beautiful song with you. It is Crowder’s song, Come as You Are*. It perfectly describes the love and freedom we have in Jesus. Here...
Thanks Mom
My friend Nicole of Nikky’s Strength and Weakness, is blogging every day in the month of December about gratitude. She got this idea from another blogger, Jodi Aman. You can check out both these ladies via this link. Jodi reminds us that when we focus on being...
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